Do you find that life is getting in the way of love. Here are the signs you’re too busy for your partner, and what you can do about it.
1. They’re asleep when you get back and still in bed when you leave in the morning
If your routines have fallen out of sync you’re losing precious pillow talk time. Join your partner in bed while they fall asleep, and in the morning bring them a cuppa so you can see each other before you leave.
2. You can’t remember the last time you cooked together
If you’re constantly eating meals on the trot, choose a day each week to take turns to cook for each other. Or, at the very least, show them you care by making a packed lunch for them to take to work.
3. You’re still on episode three of The Wire box-set
Watching your favourite TV shows together is one of the joys of coupledom. If you’re falling behind because you’re too busy, organise a marathon weekend catch-up so you can bond over the highs and lows.
4. The bedroom becomes a sleep-only zone
If your lives are too hectic for intimacy your relationship may end up suffering. Spontaneity is great, but if you diarise a proper date night with no distractions it’ll ensure you don’t neglect an important part of your love life.
5. You still haven’t bought them a birthday present
If you play catch-up with birthdays, flag them up in your diary and plan ahead so you can’t miss them. If you can’t be there in person, some flowers and a heartfelt note will show you’re thinking of them.
6. You get the intern to buy your partner’s gifts
If you don’t have time to scour the shops for the perfect present, at least make sure there’s a personal touch to your gifts. A vintage copy of their favourite children’s book will mean more than an expensive perfume.
7. You have to cancel your summer holiday
If your sacred beach time together has to be called off because of other commitments, make sure you rearrange another break as soon as possible. A weekend away should help ease the pain.
8. You exchange more words with their voicemail than with them
If you’re not making proper contact, make an appointment to call them on Skype or FaceTime so you can see as well as hear them, or even surprise them at their workplace for a quick picnic lunch.
9. Your anniversary dinner gets postponed
If work, family or friends force you to put off important romantic occasions, your partner may feel low on your list of priorities. When you do manage to squeeze in the dinner, redouble your efforts to make it extra special.
10. They complain they don’t see you enough
If your partner’s feeling hard done by, take a day off to do an activity of their choice and, if your schedule’s still non-stop, try inviting them to things they wouldn’t come to usually, such as your circuit’s class or work drinks. It’ll give you more to talk about too.