For some people, attempting to be romantic can be the source of a great deal of anxiety.
Never fear! An age-old practice from India can help us to discover the secrets of seduction. Ancient wisdom explains why, and modern style how!
The word “Tantra” means “instrument of the body.” It may sound exotic, but it is actually very simple. Tantra teaches us to use all five of our senses consciously, because it is through our senses that we are connected with the physical world.
Touch (“Sparsa” in Sanskrit)
The skin marks the visible limits of the body and it is where we make contact with the world. The skin is our largest organ and makes up 16 per cent of our body weight.
With touch we experience much of our environment, temperature, clothing, sheets, rain and so on. To awake the sense of touch, try giving your partner a massage.
Use different materials and textures, such as a feather, velvet, baby powder, a silk scarf or rose petals. Infuse sesame oil, or unscented body lotion with rose petals, or rose essential oil for a wonderful massage oil.
Smell (“Gandha” in Sanskrit)
Women are particularly sensitive to aroma. Our pheromones are the scents that we give off without realising it. These pheromones train us to recognise and desire our partners.
When people stop smoking, they often rediscover their sense of smell. Studies have shown that the loss of smell is often accompanied by a loss of sexual interest. So it is a good idea to keep our noses functioning optimally!
Fragrances are often associated with memories, and roses conjure the idea of romance for many people. Use rose scented candles and sprinkle rose petals in the bathtub.
Taste (“Rasa” in Sanskrit)
The tongue is super-sensitive. Love is sweet and there is a reason why we call each other honey and sweetie!
Savour and delight in the tastes and textures of various foods and beverages, chocolate, strawberries and yes, rose!
Sweet rose tea is made for romance! It smells wonderful and tastes divine and is the perfect way to end a romantic meal.
Sound (“Sabda” in Sanskrit)
Sounds have a profound effect on the body. Studies have shown that sounds can open up our inner pharmacy and balance our physiology. They can help us to be healthier and to actually feel better.
Whisper sweet nothings to your loved one. Play soft, sweet music. Dance and sing together.
Sight (“Rupa” in Sanskrit)
For romance, it’s all about lighting. Think pink. Use rose-coloured light bulbs and you will see things a bit more rosy! Dine by candlelight. Spread rose petals on the table. Make a trail of rose petals leading to a surprise.
by Lissa Coffey.