Asian Dating Mantras

Let’s face it. No one feels positive 100% of the time. Usually, this can be rectified by going out with some friends or watching a feel-good movie but what do you do when you have a date coming up and your positive boost needs to come fast?

I’ve got 10 asian dating mantras that are easy to recite before a date or you could just make it a part of your daily dose of self-loving.

1. I am worthy of love and respect

Seven simple words packed with huge meaning and yet, we don’t think it’s said out loud enough. If you’re someone who takes how other people treat you as an indication of how you should be treated, it’s time to stop. Know that you deserve love and respect and don’t settle for anything less.

2. Being outside of my comfort zone is where the magic happens

If you’re new to the dating game, you may not be feeling comfortable just yet and that’s fine. It takes time but it’s important to remember that an unfamiliar experience doesn’t have to be a bad one. Doing something new is about discovering yourself as much as it’s about getting to know the other person.

3. I have a lot going for me and a lot to offer

Things were fine until we met/heard of/ Facebook-stalked a certain person and suddenly we began comparing ourselves to the point where we’ve lost our own self-esteem. It’s time to echo this affirmation as a reminder that you’re more than good enough.

4. I choose to be a warrior and not a worrier

The dating game can cause some anxiety particularly if it’s the first date. You may be worried if your date will like the restaurant you’ve picked or if they’ll have a good time at the activity you’ve got planned. Don’t let these thoughts consume your energy and take away your positivity. In our books, you’re amazing enough to have put in the prep!

5. My journey lies straight ahead and I refuse to look back

Reminiscing or reflecting is a short-lived charm that can easily become destructive. Focus on now and don’t allow yourself to be dragged back. If you’re dating someone new, wipe the slate clean from all past experiences and allow yourself to shine bright (cue the Rhianna song).

6. Not only can I attract luck, I can make my own luck

You may have a pair of lucky socks or your gran’s lucky penny but if you’re out on a date without these, don’t go into a frenzy (that rhymes). Poetry aside, your personality and positivity is all you really need for a fun time.

7. I believe I can have the type of relationship I seek

If things are stuck at a plateau and there’s nothing much going on, be honest and call it quits (politely!) You don’t have to settle or commit to something if your hearts not in it. You’ll be doing the other person a favour by letting them find someone who does want to be with them while you find a relationship better suited to you.

8. I am in control with how I feel and what I think

We didn’t quite believe this until we tested it out. It’s popular belief that our feelings are caused by external things so we ultimately have no say in them. Wrong. You can stop the negative feelings by looking for silver linings or focussing on the other good that is present in your life.

9. Rejection is a redirection

Don’t let the fear of rejection hold you back and if this were to happen, halt the tears and spare yourself the dwelling. A rejection shouldn’t be viewed as a stop sign. The truth is, it’s just a signpost to a new opportunity. That’s a life lesson right there.

10. I’d rather be someone’s shot of whiskey than everyone’s cup of tea

This is our personal favourite. Whether you’re speaking online or have been on a few dates, don’t fall into the temptation to act a certain way so that you’re liked. Be happy with who you are and embrace what makes you unique. You have no reason to put on a mask because there is someone out there who will love the real you.