Your online dating profile is designed to give a snapshot of who you are, your personality and what you’re into so someone can get a feel for you and what your vibe is. It would ideally include a conversation starter as well to make it easier for people to connect with you.
But how do you make sure that you stay authentic and reveal the real you?
Don’t try and be all things to all people
If you are quiet and reserved then don’t be afraid to show this off as you’re more likely to attract someone who loves that about you. If you’re a daydreamer then celebrate this as an imperfection on your Match profile. If you’re really into books then talk about your favourite book or which book you’re really enjoying right now. If you are the life and soul of the party then include a photo of you laughing and having fun. The more specific you can be the better. There are many opportunities to express your personality on your profile (we offer detailed profiles at Match, where you can talk about anything from your dream holiday to what you like to do for fun).
Write your profile in your style
If you are bubbly and passionate then use phrases like ‘I can’t get enough of___” or “the thing that I am absolutely obsessed with right now ____” to describe what you’re into. If you are funny then write a humorous profile but if you’re not then no need to try and be funny. Write your profile in your style and in your tone of voice.
Put your profile through the ‘friend filter’
Often it is our friends who know us better than we know ourselves so get them to read your profile and ask them if this reflects the real you, the person they know and love? If it doesn’t then get their help – ask them to describe you and your best qualities and let this shine through in your profile. And ask them to help you find photos that really tell a story of who you are. So if you love skiing then have a photo of you on the slopes or if you’re really into yoga then include a photo of you that reflects that. Set up a mini photo shoot if you need some fresh pics!
Don’t be afraid to put some people off, it’s not a popularity contest
Imagine that the more you are revealing the real you, the more you are filtering out the people that won’t be right for you. Not everyone wants to date the life and soul of the party so don’t try and be this person if you’re not. If you’re a bit of a geek at heart then show this off and fully own it. Dare to be you and you can’t go wrong..
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