The modern world of dating is a minefield, full of idiosyncratic rules and regulations that can make it seem almost impossible to get a date. Then, once you’ve secured one, there’s the small matter of trying not to act like you’re completely out of your depth. We’ve put together some gay dating tips to help you get back into the dating game.
How to get back into the gay dating game
Have you just come out of a relationship or not really had time to date recently? We understand it can be difficult to throw yourself back into the dating world, especially as the landscape seems to change almost daily. Don’t worry though, we’ve pulled together a couple of tips for letting the boys know you’re back in town!
- Get back in the game:
Let the gay world know you’re single and ready to mingle. Rather than hanging out in bars waiting for the right guy to approach you, get the ball rolling and sign up to an online dating site. Signing up is a great way to see other gay singles in your local area, so bite the bullet and get back in the game.
- Don’t stick to a type
One of the the best things about dating sites is that there’s lots of single men to choose from so don’t stick to your usual type. Sometimes it’s the guys that you least expect to date that will win your heart.
- Don’t give up on finding a date
When you first sign up to a dating site it can be really exciting. You’ve filled in your profile, are browsing other gay singles and sending people messages. After a few weeks however it can seem like you’re not making progress and you might start to lose interest. Don’t give up! Keep searching for dates. You’d be very lucky to find a date in the first few weeks of signing up to a dating website and you need to put in the time to get the results you want.
Tips for when you’re on a date
After chatting to people for a while you’ll eventually decide to meet up and go on a date together which can be quite nerve wracking. We’ve got some top tips to keep your cool.
Dress to impress: What to wear on a date can be hard to judge. Our advice would be to first think about the event – are you going to be having dinner or going out? Is the venue formal or casual? Thinking about your destination can really help guide your decisions. For more advice, read our dating advice on what not to wear on first dates.
Groom appropriately: When grooming its key to know your strengths. If you can grow a beard and have luscious facial hair then a little man fur might not be a bad idea. However, if like many men you struggle to grow a magnificent mane then we’d suggest going for the clean shaven look.
Re-read their dating profile: Before you go out it might help to have another look at your date’s match.com online dating profile. Doing this will give you a good idea of your date’s interests – where they like to go on holiday, what they like to read, their favourite films etc. These can be used as a starting pointing for conversation to avoid any awkward silences. If your brain goes blank when you’re trying to think of your revision, then try having some pre-set icebreaker questions that you can call on. Have a look at the article ‘How to break the ice on a first date’.
Enjoy yourself: So you’re looking great in some dapper clothing, you’re armed with conversation starters and you’re ready to head out. Our final advice is to relax and enjoy yourself. Even if they end up not being the one, you would have met someone new and gained a bit more experience in the gay dating world.