What better place to kick off a new relationship than at an occasion where the drinks are flowing, folks are looking their very best and everyone’s in a romantic and celebratory mood? We bring you the single person’s guide to working weddings to maximum advantage.
Do your research at the Hen/Stag night
Get the bride/groom-to-be to give you the lowdown on any eligible single guests who’ll be attending the wedding. A heads-up about potential matches will stop you from accidentally chatting-up those who are already spoken for as well as give you the opportunity to get a bit of background information about them such as hobbies, occupation, likes dislikes etc. Chances are the bride- or groom-to-be will be so loved-up themselves that they’ll be dying to help play matchmaker to their friends. Make the most of their good nature!
Do offer to help
Never underestimate the attraction factor of the trusted friend! An awful lot goes into making a wedding happen, from organising transport to ushering in the guests and arranging the rehearsal dinner. Offering to help will not only be advantageous to the happy couple, but will give you a chance to meet and mingle with other guests. Being an integral part of the wedding will also make you stand out from the crowd and make you seem even more desirable.
Don’t cling to your friends
While it’s tempting to hang out and have fun with people you already know, you’re unlikely to pull or be pulled if you stick too closely to your friends. Keep your eye out for that special someone, be bold and walk on over for a chat.
Do make introductions
Weddings are brilliant because they’re one of the few occasions when you’ve got a ready made excuse to talk to someone of the opposite sex. Make a point of circulating and introducing yourself. Ask how different groups of friends and family know the bride/groom and let the conversation flow from there. Hang around if there’s a potential spark with someone, and if not make your excuses and move on politely. Nobody will mind. That’s what you’re supposed to do at weddings.
Do look sharp
Looking your best at a wedding certainly won’t harm your attraction factor. Gentlemen keep things smart and simple in a tux or suit, ladies keep hair neat and avoid anything that could be construed as overtly tarty, For example, if you’re wearing a low-cut top, don’t team it with sexy mini-skirt. Keep things stylish and sophisticated.
Don’t over indulge
Yes, it’s a wedding, so by all means eat, drink and be merry. Just don’t over do it. A few drinks to get you in festive mood is fine, but don’t embarrass yourself by performing a strip-tease, propositioning the father of the groom or telling crude jokes during the speeches.
Do take pictures
Having a camera is a great pulling prop. If you haven’t been introduced to the man or woman you’ve got your eye on yet, wander over and ask if they’d be kind enough to take a photo of you and your friends. It’s the perfect ice-breaker.
Don’t dance provocatively
Keep in mind that it’s a wedding not a night club so now’s not the time to break out your best Beyoncé booty bump ‘n’ grind. There are old folk present! Do on the other hand be instrumental in getting the party going by encouraging reluctant guests on to the dance floor. Demonstrating your ability to get on with young and old and really get the crowd will get you noticed in a good way.
Do make the next move
If you’ve really hit it off with someone, don’t be afraid to suggest going outside together for a breath of fresh air or a stroll. Moving away from the main action of the party will give you more privacy and a chance to talk without having to shout over the music. It’s also a good time to suggest exchanging contact details.
Don’t act desperate
Knocking over the bridesmaids in order to catch the bouquet or proposing to the Maid of Honour won’t help you find the ‘One’ in fact it’ll probably send him or her running in the opposite direction.
Do have fun
Lastly, enjoy yourself! People are naturally attracted to others who look like they’re genuinely having a good time and are fun to be around. So work it!