Match’s dating expert, Hayley Quinn, gives you her tips for boosting your love life during self-isolation

The phrase ‘social distancing’ is on everyone’s lips right now, and at first glance there’s nothing about it which sounds like good news for singles. But you might discover that dating during isolation could be just what your love life needs.

  • 1. Isolated dating is slow dating. These days dating can happen so fast: we can swipe left or right in seconds, based on entirely superficial things. But right now, especially if you have been single for a while, maybe it’s time to think about what you really want in a partner. And always remember that the person you really connect with might not be your ‘type’ at all. Take your time to look through those profiles carefully – and instead of judging someone just because of their job or their looks, why not find out more about them by sharing messages, phone calls and maybe even a video date?
  • 2. Courting is the new dating! If you’re the type who lets themselves get swept off their feet only to be let down later, this period of isolation is a chance to slow things down. Instead of feeling you have to be spontaneous, or always ready to respond to the dreaded late-night text, now you have the luxury of being able to find out your potential dates gradually and work out what you both want, whether you’re ready for commitment and whether you’ could be right for each other.
  • 3. Creativity rules! Obviously, a video date can’t match the excitement of meeting face to face, but that doesn’t mean it can’t get close. Help yourself stand out from the crowd by levelling up your video date experience. Play a game like ‘did you ever’ or charades. Make it a more intimate experience by ordering the same takeout or making the same cocktail ‘together’. You could even check out the same Netflix movie at the same time. Turning a video chat into a fun evening together takes the pressure off the conversation… and could help you shine.
  • 4. Set your limits! If you know you have allowed yourself to be treated badly in the past, now is the time to take back control. Give yourself permission to ignore those messages from horrible exes, and get better at knowing when people don’t respect your boundaries. And remember: if someone is trying to bully you into meeting during this period of social distancing, they’re thinking more about themselves than they are about you, the government advice or the health of everyone else. If that’s not a clear sign to ditch them and move on to someone better, what is?
  • 5. Take some time for self-improvement. While it might be tempting to use all this free time just to catch up on all those box sets, why not turn it into a chance to learn a new skill, get a little fitter, improve your cooking or finally think about starting that business you’ve always dreamt of? Be smart about what you do with this period and you’ll be able to re-enter real life with more confidence. Which will improve your dating life too!

So, while we can’t date in real life at the moment, it’s worth remembering that the lockdown could be good news for your love life!

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