Online dating can be confusing and take up time, but doing it right will put in you in the best position to find a date. The process can be daunting, there’s choosing a profile picture, writing a blurb, and then the clincher – sending your first message. Fear not however, we are here to help.
Choosing the right profile photo
The first thing that will attract a woman to visit your profile page is your photo, so choosing the right picture is really important.
You may have made some serious gains at the gym recently, but choosing your topless bathroom selfie as your profile picture might come across the wrong way. To put it in perspective, imagine you’re on a night out in a club and take off your top – the only attention you’re going to get is from a bouncer! Women don’t want to see your abs (yet), they are more interested in seeing your face.
We recommend asking a friend to help you take your picture which has the added benefit of getting their opinion on which one you should choose. In terms of framing, we’d recommend a head-on shot which clearly shows your handsome face. If you’re still desperate to share those topless images then we would recommend adding them to your photo gallery and choosing something natural like a holiday pic.
Check out our advice how to take a photo with your smartphone.
Writing your personal description
Trying to write about who you are might fill you with a sense of dread. We can totally understand that. Here’s some tips to help you get over your writers block so you can start telling other singles just how great you are.
It can be tempting when writing your personal description to include hobbies, books and films that you think other people would be attracted to, even if you’re not interested in them at all. However if you really want to find a date that you’ll share common interests with then this is not the right path to go down. I mean, if one of the things you love to do is to sit in the pub and watch your favourite football team on a Sunday, then be honest about it. How great would it be if you had a date to join you?
Take a look at our ten phrases to avoid on your dating profile.
Sending your first message on a dating site
It may feel like you’ve just got your head around how to start up a conversation with a woman you like in a bar, and now you need to learn how to do it in writing, on a dating site – argh! The key to the first interaction with someone on a dating site is not to overthink it. Before you even begin to chat you can let the other party know you’re interested by adding them to your favourites or sending them a wink. When you’re ready to send the first message there are four key things to remember to improve your chances of success – 1. Make your message stand out, 2. Show you’ve read their profile, 3. Give them a reason to write back and 4. Spell check. Personalisation is key, so trust us when we say that a quick copy and paste won’t work.
Here’s how to get started writing your first message.
Hopefully setting up your dating profile doesn’t feel like such a daunting task now. All our advice really rests on the simply idea to just be yourself.