There are often questions that we are dying to ask a date the first time we meet them but in some instances it’s much better to bite your tongue and keep schtum. Here are a few examples of questions not to ask on a date:
When do you want to get married?
There’s nothing wrong with knowing and communicating what you want in a relationship e.g. casual vs longterm potential but we recommend you avoid the word marriage on a first date. Let’s remind you that this is the first time you’ve met your date and you do not want to scare them off by suggesting that you are already dreaming of wedding dresses.
How do I look?
Many of us feel self-conscious on a first date, after all we are dying to know what our date thinks of us ‘in the flesh’. But you should never ask them their first impressions! Not only could it ruin the magic of a first encounter but it highlights your lack of self-confidence. Just be patient and soon enough you’ll know if your date likes you enough to see you again.
How many sexual partners have you had?
We don’t blame you for wanting to know if your man is a Don Juan or a wallflower but it is always better not to ask this question: first, because it is inappropriate (we do not talk about sex on a first date), second, because it is a private matter, and third, because the temptation is to judge someone on the number of people they’ve slept with.
Do you still have feelings for your ex?
Do you really want to know this? Why dredge up the past when you can focus on the present and, hopefully, the future. Talking about ex’s is a no-go when it comes to dating. You don’t know how messy or painful the break up was for that person so don’t encourage any bad feelings by talking about it on what is otherwise a fun evening out. And if they do happen to still have feelings for their ex it won’t make you feel good knowing that.
What do you think of girls who have sex on the first date?
If you’re dying to ask him that question, it’s probably because you want to end the night in bed…with him. If that’s what you want by all means broach the subject but there’s no harm in holding out and he’ll probably respect you for it.