Are you worried that you’ll miss out on God’s plan, specifically by missing out on finding ‘The One’? Do you fear choosing the wrong person to date on Match? And if you do choose the wrong person, that you will miss the right one?
Guess what – you can’t screw up God’s plan for your life.
If you are following God and listening to Him, you can’t mess up and pick the wrong person to marry.
Early in college, I was dating a great guy, but I just wasn’t confident in our relationship. I was afraid to break up with him because I thought, “What if I mess up God’s plan? What if this is the guy I’m supposed to marry?” Throughout the relationship, I kept feeling like I should break up with him, but I had so many fears.
I had to continuously remind myself – I can’t screw up God’s plan. Even after the break up, I worried I had screwed up. I believed I had made a mistake. I actually tried to get back together with him. Thank goodness God did not allow that to happen. For whatever reason, he was not the right person for me, and I’m glad I listened to my gut and walked away.
When I tried to get back together with him, it showed that I didn’t trust God and worried I could miss out on his plan. Thankfully, the Bible tells us to not worry about God’s plans for our lives.
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7.
God doesn’t want us to not be anxious about finding ‘The One’. God wants us to pray to Him and thank Him for all the gifts He blesses us with daily. God wants us to pray to Him and ask Him to meet all our needs, including the desire in our heart to be married. God will provide peace in our season of singleness. God will guard our hearts and minds because of Jesus. If you’re worried that you will miss out on ‘The One’, remember those truths. You cannot miss out on God’s plan for your life – that is just impossible.
Next time you are checking out a profile on Match, don’t worry about if that person is ‘The One’ or not, but turn to God and trust that you cannot miss His plan for your life. Instead of living in anxiety over if a certain person is ‘The One’, go on a few dates and get to know them. Find out if you enjoy their personality and passions. Learn if both your hearts beat to the same rhythm.
It takes time and dates to get to know another person. Don’t rush or try and figure out the date of your wedding right away. If God wants you to marry them, it will happen.
Give it time, be patient and pray. Enjoy dating friends!
Joy is a recent college grad who experienced Jesus’s love and pursuit her first year of college and surrendered her life to him. She often blogs about Christian dating, contentment in singleness, and freedom from sexual abuse. She hopes to help you: Experience Jesus. Experience His joy. Experience His freedom.
If you are looking for more practical and Biblical tips on Christian dating? Check out Joy’s blog – http://joypedrow.com/