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How to ask someone out

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How to ask someone out

With your profile in place and conversation flowing, a first date is the logical next step.

While it may be all too tempting to sit back and hope they make the first move, we must remind you that this is the 21st century – so say goodbye to playing hard to get and hello to the new, “go get ’em” you!

Get nervous about asking people out? Doing it on a dating site takes some of the pressure away. Follow these top tips to help you out.

Who should ask who on a date?

Do you get lost in conversation with someone on match.com? Eagerly await the next time you’ll talk? And feel as though you’re developing real chemistry?

If the answer is a resounding YES, it sounds like it’s the right time to ask. If they haven’t shown any signs of asking you yet, remember that confidence is a keenly sought after trait in a partner, so simply ask them – “do you fancy meeting up soon?”

When is the right moment to ask someone on a date?

Who asks who out is neither here nor there, it’s about realising when it feels right and seizing the moment!

Before you decide to ask, assess whether you’re both putting in an equal amount of effort when it comes to getting in touch.

If it seems like the person you’ve been speaking to likes you too, and you’re confident that your personalities are compatible, then go ahead!

If they say no…

More fool them, quite frankly! While a no might be difficult to take at first, you mustn’t let it get you down.

Finish your conversation by saying something supportive and encouraging about their future dating search like “Good luck with your next date, I hope you have a great time”. In this way you are ensuring that you leave them with a positive feeling about both yourself and the future.

If they say yes…

Having gotten to know your date through the site, you should by now have a good idea of what makes them tick. So, armed with this valuable knowledge, why not go ahead and plan a great date for the two of you yourself?

Meeting for a first date is an exciting prospect and a wonderful opportunity to finally meet the person you’ve been speaking to online. How very exciting!

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