How to sell yourself on a dating website
Dating websites are becoming increasingly popular places to meet people, but with so many people in the online dating space, how do you go about standing out from the crowd?
If you find yourself dating or receiving messages from the wrong types of people, now sounds like the perfect time to spruce up your online dating profile and turning the heads of those you’d really like to meet.
Shout about why you’re great
Put your modest mind aside for a second and really think about what’s great about you. Perhaps you possess a unique talent? Do you enjoy an unusual hobby? Or are you super savvy when it comes to pub quizzes?
If you look at any online dating website you’ll see thousands of the same headlines; “Looking for someone with a GSOH”, “Kind and caring man seeking the one”. This doesn’t tell you anything about the person, and it certainly doesn’t make them stand out from the crowd.
Go for an attention-grabbing, punchy headline that really shows how charismatic and intriguing you are, and watch those profile views and messages come rolling in.
Let your personality shine through
Where possible, try to write in such a way that really showcases your passion for your hobbies, interests and views.
With online dating websites, it can sometimes be tricky to get a sense of someone’s personality, so make sure your profile and messages are crammed with words that show the reader what you’re really like.
Instead of just saying “I like to cook in my spare time”, bring the statement to life with something like “I’m a mean chef in the kitchen and a sushi-pro in the making!”.
Stop asking easy and boring questions
It’s easy to send a string of generic messages to people you quite like the look of, but would you be inclined to reply to someone who asks: “Hi there, want to chat?” – No? Didn’t think so.
When you send the first message, show that you’re genuinely interested by asking questions about points in their profile. Try something like: “I can’t believe you got tickets for The Pixies – how was it?” or “I’m secretly jealous of your travels – if you could visit one place again, where would it be?”
Referencing their profile in this way shows that you’ve taken time to read what they’ve written and this will set you apart.