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To Wink Or Not To Wink?

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by Soni
To Wink Or Not To Wink?

What makes you decide whether to wink or not to wink?

When online dating, you can scroll through lots of different profiles, making it difficult to decide exactly what you’re looking for: are you waiting for someone to catch your eye with an interesting picture, or maybe an unusual name? Someone then catches your attention, which stops you from scrolling further as you want to know more about them. You view a few more of their pictures and quite like what you find out about them… but what now!? Do you wink, do you favourite or do you message?

If you wink and they wink back on dating websites, it could be a safe way to judge if they like you too, before you attempt to pursue them any further. From my experience, I find ‘favourite’ means I’ve been shortlisted; the winks say they find me attractive and want to know if the feeling is mutual; and a message equals business.

“I enjoy reading messages, especially when they’re personalised; they say a lot about a person.

I’ve had a few copy and pasted messages which have been exact replicas of previous messages, this is a massive no, no! Really long messages don’t work either, it’s best that they’re short and sweet, leaving me intrigued to know more, rather than trying to sell themselves like a CV.

I guess the users that surprise me are the ones that show they have read my profile and taken notice of something. It doesn’t have to be something big, mentioning a shared interest is fine, just something that shows they’re genuinely interested in getting to know me, even if it’s amongst hundreds of other messages they’re sending.

“Common chat up lines such as ‘hey’ or ‘you’re beautiful’ don’t work for me.

At Match, you’re able to communicate with anyone, which is great, but this may lead to receiving messages from people who aren’t your type. For me, this can make replying difficult, as I don’t want to make these people feel ignored or inferior, so I reply to some of them to say ‘thank you’ for the message. Hopefully this gesture is appreciated.

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