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How to tell if a guy likes you

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by Kate Taylor match.com’s dating and relationship expert
How to tell if a guy likes you

We’ve put together our top 10 no-fail ways to tell if a guy likes you. Whether it’s his body posture, actions, or the way he looks at you, we’ll make sure you don’t miss the signs.

1. They look for reasons to see you

Especially reasons that seem to hold little or no reward for themselves. For example, you tell a guy that your car is making weird noises and he offers to look at the engine. Does he harbour a secret yearning to join the RAC? Is he practising to become the next Kevin from Coronation Street? No – he wants to put himself in your good books. A guy who likes you just wants to be near you. The activity isn’t important – YOU are the reward.

2. A guy who likes you will contact you regularly

When a guy likes you, there’s no on/off communication. You hear from him every day because he never wants you to forget about him. If you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you, look at your phone log. Whose name pops up the most regularly? That’s the guy who likes you the most. (If it’s your boss or your Dad, not someone you met on dating sites, you need more options! Sign up for our free dating trial and we’ll find you some new ones.)

3. Nobody else is good enough for you

A guy who likes you is NEVER happy to hear you talk about other men. But his ego won’t let him reveal it – instead, he’ll just criticise the competition and hope to put you off by stealth. Try it! Drop another guy into conversation and watch his hackles rise while you intrigue him further by being an interesting date.

4. They give you things

The male urge to provide is very strong when a guy likes you. If you need a pen, he’ll give you his and tell you to keep it. If you feel cold, he’ll lend you his jacket. When a man ignores an opportunity to give you something, be wary.

5. He seems a little bit “up” when he’s with you

A guy in the throes of attraction is NOT a relaxed man. His brain is flooding with dopamine, which makes him slightly hyper. He might look twitchy, seem edgy, or begin to talk reallyreallyfast. He might perspire more (sexy!), or drop things. Don’t write him off as a clutz – realise he’s got a crush.

6. He’ll remember everything you tell him

Even obscure things. (This will wear off when you start dating, though, and disappear completely when you move in together. Sorry about that.)

7. His friends know you, before they’ve met you

He’ll be talking about you near-constantly when you’re apart. His friends will be sick of the sound of your name long before you ever meet them for a drink. His mum knows the colour of your hair in the sunshine. His colleagues know your favourite TV show. And when they’re nearby, everyone in his life will watch any interaction between the pair of you like it’s the Wimbledon final.

8. He likes what you like

That obscure band you mentioned? they’re suddenly in his gym playlist. That newspaper article you talked about? He’s read it. That Netflix show you’re hooked on? He’s halfway through the second series, because watching it reminds him of you. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, these are clear signals he’s sending your way.

9. His body gives it away

No matter how cool he’s trying to play things, his body will reveal the truth involuntarily. Watch his face when he catches sight of you – do his eyebrows do a tiny, rapid flash upwards? If so, he’s keen (or he’s wondering how you broke into his bedroom). Check out his feet – are they pointing in your direction when he’s talking to you? Keen. Is he straightening his tie, smoothing his hair and hooking his hands into his pockets? JUST ASK THE POOR GUY OUT ALREADY.

10. He asks you out

It might take him some time, but a guy who likes you WILL ask you out. If he’s confident, he’ll do it soon, but if he’s shy, he’ll only dare when he’s got a pretty good idea that you’ll say yes. Make it easy for him, by creating opportunities. Talk about a cool bar that you’d like to try, or a film you want to see. Smile when you talk to him, and touch his arm when he makes you laugh. Add a kiss to your texts. Flirt! He will be yours by the weekend…

Now you know he likes you find how to break the ice on the first date and get more advice from dating expert Kate Taylor.

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