Having set up your profile, it might be tempting to sit back and wait for messages from other members to flood in. Dating websites are a great way to meet people. Get the best out of your online dating experience with these tips.
1. Don’t let great matches pass you by
If someone’s profile catches your eye, let them know.
Making the first move with someone you like might be a daunting prospect, but do it right and you could soon find yourself dating someone very special!
Make sure you catch their eye with an email that stands out from the rest; be upbeat, and reference something from their profile to show that you’re interested in getting to know them a little better.
For example: “Hey, I see you’ve been to Thailand. I’m planning a trip there too – where would you recommend?” People are more likely to respond to your message if it’s clear that you’re genuinely interested in what they have to say.
Alternatively you can add any profiles that catch your eye to your favourites list and email them later when you’re able to dedicate some proper time to penning a lovely email.
2. Stop asking the same old questions
“What do you do for a living?”, “where did you grow up?” and “what kind of music do you like?” – yawn! Your date will have answered these questions time and time again, so why not take them by surprise with something that will really make them stop and think?
Delve a little deeper into their minds with questions like “What’s the biggest misconception about you?” or “if money was no object how would you spend your time?” These questions will give you an insight into their values and aspirations.
3. Put yourself out there
If you’ve been speaking to someone you like for a while but haven’t yet started dating them, take a deep breath and initiate the first date. Some people might be hesitant to ask for dates, especially if they’ve been knocked back in the past, so asking for a date will confirm that you’re interested and keen to meet them offline.
If you’ve already been on a first date, don’t wait for them to suggest a second date; ask your match on a fun date that they won’t have experienced before, for example, an open-air cinema or chocolate making course. If you ask them on a date out of the ordinary they’ll be far more likely to accept your invite.
4. Be a ‘yes’ man
Take some inspiration from Jim Carrey in Yes Man and start saying ‘yes’ more!
A great way to figure out the kind of person you’re really looking for is by dating different types of people; the idea of dating websites is to give you the opportunity to meet people that you might not have otherwise had the chance to, so take the opportunity to go on lots of dates.
Not only does dating allow you to see whether there’s a spark between you, but it also helps you discover what kind of partner you’re really looking for and will ensure you don’t overlook a potentially perfect match.
5. Attend a dating event
You might find that some dating websites host events for their members so you can meet lots of single, likeminded people in the friendly surroundings of a bar or pub.
match.com nights are a great way to meet other local singles in a relaxed environment. These informal nights instantly remove the mystery of “are they or aren’t they single?”, because everyone at a match.com night is single! Guests at our events are there for the same reason as you – to meet someone special.