Signs She Wants You To Make A Move: Identifying the Green Lights

There are few things more embarrassing than making a move, thinking the time is right and the feelings are reciprocal, and then getting rejected. You ask if you can kiss her, she laughs, looks away awkwardly when she realises you’re not joking, and you’re left with the sinking feeling that you’ll be replaying that moment in your head for months.

You could just wait for her to make a move, but if she’s waiting for you, you’ll both be stuck in limbo with nothing but unspent sexual energy and regrets to keep you company.

So, how do you know when a girl likes you and when the time is right? What are the signs she wants you to make a move?

Comprehensive Guide to Interpreting Her Signs

If a girl likes you, she may give you subtle signs, letting you know how she feels and making her intentions clear. But what if she’s self-conscious? What if your relationship is complicated (co-workers, long-term friends)? In such cases, she might want to keep those feelings hidden. Like you, she’ll be looking out for signs that you like her while protecting her own feelings to avoid being hurt or embarrassed.

But her true intent may still leak through. These non-verbal signals are often unconscious. She’s not actually saying anything, but she doesn’t need to, as her body language and behaviour do all of the talking for her. Also, regardless of how complicated the situation is, and regardless of whether you’re chasing a man or woman, humans generally want to make their feelings known, even if it’s just to gauge a reaction. They might not come out and say, ‘I like you’, but they’ll often test the waters.

If you’re paying attention, you can detect these verbal and non-verbal, intended and unintended signs.

Eye contact

The way she looks at you is one of the clearest signs she wants you. If she’s interested, she won’t be able to take her eyes off you. It’s not just during conversations, either. If you’re in a group of people, look at her and see where her attention is directed. If she really likes you, her gaze will linger on you more than anyone else. Of course, if she’s constantly shooting glances your way, she could also be checking if you’re looking at her. She could be looking for signs as well.

Physical touches

If she likes you, she’ll want to get closer to you, to touch you. She’ll find any excuse she can to touch you, whether it’s a hug or a brush of your arm. You can test her on this by getting in close proximity and giving her those opportunities.

Conversational clues

Constantly seeking you out and wanting to spend time with you is a good sign. She might just drop by or happen to be in the area. She might ask what you’re doing or invite you to events. Compliments may be plentiful too—your hair looks great today, you’re really fun, you’re very intelligent.

Digital interactions

You won’t always know when she’s looking at your social media profiles. If she wants to keep her feelings secret, she’ll stalk you in private. But there may still be signs, such as leaving a lot of likes on your posts, sharing everything you ask people to share, and even leaving cheeky/flirty comments on your selfies.

Behavioural signs

Actions speak louder than words. Think about how she dresses when she’s around you—does it look like she’s gone to a lot of effort even though you’re in a casual setting? Does she ask you questions relating to your love life, such as who you’re dating, and what your perfect woman would look like? If so, she could be digging for more information while also dropping subtle hints that she wants to be in your life.

Exploring Different Contexts Where Signs May Occur

Context is everything. If a woman is paying attention to you and making eye contact in a one-on-one setting, it doesn’t mean she likes you and wants you to make a move. She’s just being polite and professional. It’s a good sign if she’s making excuses to touch you in private and she does so with a smile, but not if she’s trying to squeeze past you or brushing you aside because you’re in her way.

• In a social setting: As noted above, this is when lingering glances and attention make all the difference. Is she devoting more attention to you than anyone else? Is she looking at you a lot, even when you’re on the other side of the room? These are signs she’s waiting for something to happen, so sidle up to her, chat, and look for more signs.
• At work: It can be tough to judge signals in a professional setting, as politeness and professionalism could be mistaken for interest. Play it safe and try to get her out of that professional space before going any further, such as asking her if she’d like to go for a drink.
• In a casual setting: If there are no constraints imposed by busy social or professional environments, the signs should be much clearer. If a girl likes you and wants to make something happen, this is the time to find out.
• Online and long-distance interactions: If the relationship is entirely online and long-distance, pay special attention to how much time she devotes to you. Don’t read too much into how friendly she seems in messages, it’s all about whether she’s spending more time with you, liking a lot of your pictures/posts, and engaging with you regularly.

A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Move

• Read the signs first. You don’t need to know she wants you for definite, but it helps to have an idea.
• Don’t overthink or overcomplicate it. The more you plan and think, the more likely you are to mess it up.
• Be yourself. If you’re not a cool dude, that’s okay, and it might be why she likes you. Embrace your awkwardness.
• Take things slowly. You don’t have to ask/go for a kiss straight away. Maybe ask for her number, compliment her, or ask for a date.
• Put her at ease. Tell her a joke or a cheesy pick-up line.
• Get close. If she’s definitely not interested, she might sense what’s about to happen and back away.
• Take no for an answer. Don’t insist or pressure her.

Safety and Respect: The Non-Negotiables of Making a Move

Real life isn’t a film script penned by a sitcom writer from the 1950s. You can’t simply grab women, kiss them forcefully, and then instantly start a whirlwind romance. You need consent before you get all grabby and kissy. And don’t complain that it takes the romance out of the situation—there’s nothing romantic about being forcibly kissed when you’re not ready or interested!

Also, there are ways to do it while keeping things romantic, such as reading the signs and then asking softly if you can kiss her. It’s better for everyone this way, as getting a polite ‘no’ is much better than a girl scrunching up her face and turning away when you lean in for a kiss.

So, always make sure the interest is mutual—you might want to make a move, but does she?

Conclusion: Embracing the Chase with Knowledge and Respect

If you’re waiting to make your move on a girl you like, remember the following:

• She will give off subtle signs that she likes you
• Context and situation are key
• Don’t read too much into politeness and professionalism
• Always get consent
• Look for clues in body language, as well as conversations

And, of course, you can always tell a girl that you like her and see what she says. It’ll skip the speculation and get straight to the point. What’s the worst that can happen?

FAQs: Addressing Common Questions and Misconceptions

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