match.com's relationship expert Kate Taylor reveals the 10 ways to tell if the girl you are on a date with likes you.
1. She’ll ask you about your plans for the weekend
No, she’s not suddenly gripped by your upcoming trip to B&Q, she just wants to hear if you use the word “we”. In a recent Match.com survey, 74% of women admitted they’d use stealth questioning to ascertain a man’s relationship status. Look out for questions about your holiday plans, where you live, or what you’re doing later.
2. She’ll glance at your hand to see if you’re wearing a wedding ring
But pay attention or you’ll miss it. 88% of women surveyed revealed they will check for a ring within the first 30 seconds of meeting a new man.
3. She’ll become preoccupied with her own appearance
When she loves how you look, she’ll become more aware of her own hair, face and clothes. She will surreptitiously glance in a mirror, or smooth her hair with her hand, or start straightening and smoothing her dress. She might buy new clothes (any excuse) or try to remember the address of her gym.
4. She’ll ask you when your birthday is
Not so she can buy you the Xbox One you’ve been coveting (or break into your online banking). But so she can look up your zodiac sign, read your horoscope every day, and compare you to any man born that same month that she or her friends has ever dated.
5. She’ll ask your advice on things
Have you noticed a woman in your circle treating you like the living personification of Google? She likes you. Girls ask men for advice for two reasons: it flatters you, and it gives them a casual excuse to start a conversation. At the beginning, an interested woman will ask your advice on anything. When she’s snagged you, she’ll disregard everything you say, so enjoy it while you can.
6. She’ll be interested in your interests, no matter how blokey
Any woman who ever says the words, “So you play Clash of Clans? That’s cool,” loves you to the point of sickness. Ditto any woman who comes along to listen to your band rehearsal, watches you play football (especially on Fifa) and/or happily sits through a war documentary with you.
7. She acts differently with you than other guys
She’ll either be flirtier and smilier with you than she is with other men, OR the total opposite. If she’s fun and relaxed with most men but tongue-tied and awkward around you, she could have a crush. Girls often clam up and even avoid the boy they really like. Obviously you can’t assume that every girl who ignores you is secretly in love – that way a million restraining orders lie – but do compare how she acts with you to everyone else.
8. She’ll suggest an alternative day, if she’s busy
If you ask her out and she says she already has plans, don’t take it as rejection. She’s not saying, “Never in a million years,” just “Not tonight”. Unconvinced? Suggest a different day. If she rejects that too, without offering another day in return (“I can’t do Friday – how about Saturday?”) it’s time to back off. A woman who likes you will try to make it easy to get together.
9. She’ll laugh at your jokes, a lot
Women who fancy you will laugh at your jokes more than women who don’t. That’s because, a) We find people funnier (as well as more intelligent, more interesting and kinder) when we think they’re attractive; and b) Because she’s trying to let you know that she likes you.
10. She’ll touch you. Subtly
A gentle hand on your arm, a pat on your knee, a casual brushing off of dust from your lapel – she’s either your mother, or she’s wild about you and trying to let you know.
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