Many a single woman has been plagued by the question “Does he like me?” He might be friendly, polite and charming but have no romantic interest in you. So how do you sort the potential boyfriends from those who just want to be friends?
We’ve put together our top 10 no-fail ways to tell if a guy likes you. Whether it’s his body posture, actions, or the way he looks at you, we’ll make sure you don’t miss the signs.
1. HE ACTIVELY LOOKS FOR REASONS TO SEE YOU
Especially reasons that seem to hold little or no reward for them. For example, you tell a guy that your car is making weird noises and he ever-so-kindly offers to look at the engine. Does he harbour a secret yearning to join the RAC? Is he rehearsing to become the next Kevin from Coronation Street? No – he wants to put himself in your good books. A guy who likes you just wants to be near you. The activity isn’t important – YOU are the reward. Helping you out with something allows him to impress you as well as spend extra time with you, making it a win for him on two counts.
2. HE CONTACTS YOU REGULARLY
When a guy likes you, there’s no on/off communication, let alone ghosting. You hear from him every day because he never wants you to forget about him. If you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you, look at your phone. Whose name pops up the most regularly? That’s the guy who likes you the most. (If it’s your boss or your Dad, not someone you met on a dating site, you need more options! Sign up for our free dating trial and we’ll find you some new ones.)
3. HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU MENTIONING OTHER MEN
A guy who likes you is NEVER happy to hear you talk about other men who you might be romantically interested in. But his ego won’t let him reveal it – instead, he’ll just criticise the competition and hope to put you off by stealth. Try it! Drop another guy into conversation and watch his hackles rise while you intrigue him further by being an interesting date.
4. HE GIVES YOU THINGS
The male urge to provide is very strong when a guy likes you. It’s the little things – if you need a pen, he’ll give you his and tell you to keep it. If you feel cold, he’ll lend you his jacket. When a man ignores an opportunity to give you something, be wary. This isn’t the be-all and end-all but it should give you a good indication of how he feels about you.
5. HE SEEMS A LITTLE BIT EXCITABLE WHEN HE’S WITH YOU
A guy in the throes of attraction is not a relaxed man. His brain is flooding with dopamine, which makes him slightly hyper. He might look twitchy, seem edgy, or begin to talk reallyreallyfast. He might perspire more (sexy!), or drop things. Don’t write him off as a clutz – realise he’s got a crush. He’ll also be feeling more nervous than usual around you if he’s keen to impress, so allow for this and try to make him feel at ease.
6. HE’LL REMEMBER EVERYTHING YOU TELL HIM
Even obscure things and things you don’t remember ever having mentioned! He’ll be an expert on your life before you know it. (This will wear off when you start dating, though, and disappear completely when you move in together. Sorry about that.)
7. HIS FRIENDS KNOW YOU BEFORE THEY’VE MET YOU
He’ll be talking about you near-constantly when you’re apart. His friends will be sick of the sound of your name long before you ever meet them for a drink. His mum knows the colour of your hair in the sunshine and his colleagues know your favourite TV show. And when they’re nearby, everyone in his life will watch any interaction between the pair of you like it’s the Wimbledon final.
8. HE LIKES WHAT YOU LIKE
That obscure band you mentioned? They’re suddenly in his gym playlist. That newspaper article you talked about? He’s read it. That Netflix show you’re hooked on? He’s halfway through the second series, because watching it reminds him of you. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, these are clear signals he’s sending your way. He wants to have as much in common with you as possible and is happy to try new things to get closer to you.
9. HIS BODY GIVES IT AWAY
No matter how cool he’s trying to play things, his body will reveal the truth involuntarily. Watch his face when he catches sight of you – do his eyebrows do a tiny, rapid flash upwards? If so, he’s keen (or he’s wondering how you broke into his bedroom). Check out his feet – are they pointing in your direction when he’s talking to you? Keen. Is he straightening his tie, smoothing his hair and hooking his hands into his pockets? JUST ASK THE POOR GUY OUT ALREADY.
10. HE ASKS YOU OUT
It might take him some time, but a guy who likes you WILL ask you out. If he’s confident, he’ll do it soon, but if he’s shy, he’ll only dare when he’s got a pretty good idea that you’ll say yes. Make it easy for him, by creating opportunities. Talk about a cool bar that you’d like to try, or a film you want to see. Smile when you talk to him, and touch his arm when he makes you laugh. Add a kiss to your texts. Flirt! He’ll be yours by the weekend… If you want to take the lead and you’re sure he likes you, don’t be afraid to make the first move. Your confidence will impress him and you’ll waste less time beating around the bush.