With societal taboos on the decline and gender equality increasingly on the agenda, age really shouldn’t be a barrier to compatibility these days. From trailblazers George and Amal Clooney to Emmanuel and Brigette Macron, age gap relationships are increasingly more common. In case you’re still hesitant here are 13 reasons why you should try dating an older man.
He’s a mature dater
Whilst it may be initially intimidating, the fact this certainly won’t be his first rodeo means he’ll not only know what a good date involves, but he’ll also know what he wants and be more likely to let you know about it. Dating an older man is often so much less complicated than going for a younger guy.
He’s a smooth talker
They say age is just a number, but those extra years will have given him life experiences, stories and a more refined sense of humour to boot. Gone will be the days of awkwardly told anecdotes and dead-end conversations; settle in for a conversational masterclass!
He’s all ears
The older gentleman also knows that it takes two to tango and your relationship’s communication is no different. Listening is an essential ingredient for a healthy relationship built on mutual respect, and a more mature other half is more likely to be all ears.
He’ll get on with your friends
…and probably your parents too! With experience comes a greater appreciation for things you find valuable, so in valuing you he’ll understand the importance of extending his finely-honed social skills to the people you cherish in your life. It’s only common courtesy, right?
While some might say that older people tend to be stuck in their ways, if you look at it from another point of view this can be seen as a huge positive. An older man knows who he is and is more able to maintain other friendships and activities outside of your relationship, therefore giving you the much-needed space to develop in your own time, in a way your clingy ex could never understand. Independence in a relationship is key; why not embrace dating an older man and rediscover yours?
He’ll have a career
To have a job means occupation and income, but to have a career means having responsibility and ambition. A healthy amount of drive and passion for what you do is something often acquired over time, and unless he’s a workaholic, it can be a source of inspiration and attraction!
He’s financially secure
We’re not saying he’ll be a Sugar Daddy as such, but he probably won’t be counting the pennies like his younger counterparts as he’ll be spending more time focusing on you! With financial security often comes home ownership, meaning no more awkward housemate encounters. And homeowners are also much more likely to possess an honest understanding of the need for regular cleaning… Dating an older man has so many hidden benefits!
He’s a silver fox
It’s a well-worn cliché but there’s no smoke without fire. For older men, preservation tends to be the focus when it comes to physical appearance, but the root of this attitude often stems from self-confidence gained after several years on the block, and there’s no denying the attraction in that! There’s also a certain level of self-possession that can only be pulled off by the experienced man- perfect if you’re partial to a more statesmanlike air.
He has private prowess
An older man will have more experience in the bedroom department, making them more likely to know what works for both of you. Sex is often cited as one of the most important aspects of a relationship, so being able to quickly find your feet and preferences will enable your relationship to advance at a more organic pace.
Variety is the spice of life
Discovering your differences is as important as finding your similarities. You might find that a few cultural references here and there don’t quite hit the mark due to the age difference, but it’s all a learning curve!, Exposure to something new and acceptance of differences can be the foundation for a strong relationship founded on respect, although that’s not to say you can’t teach each other a thing or two!
It’s not just you – older men are more attractive from a scientific perspective too as they represent many socially valued attributes like intellect, affluence and security. There’s a long history of men marrying younger women in society, so age simply shouldn’t be the issue that some perceive it to be. As Mark Twain once said, ‘age is an issue of mind over matter – if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter’.