Have you ever really liked the look of someone but couldn’t figure out how to grab his attention so you could get to know each other? We know the struggle. Men can be hard to read and the last thing you want, when you like someone, is to be caught up in mind games.
Attracting men sometimes comes with bad connotations. The woman who effortlessly attracts men is a ‘hussy’, perhaps too ‘flirtatious’ or a ‘tease’ – this is all nonsense. Finding yourself attractive is the first step to attracting a man to date. Learn to love yourself before caring what guys think. That way you can own your power as an attractive woman and move into a healthy relationship as a woman who knows what she has to offer.
When you know what you have to offer, you know how to show it off, work it and decide how much of it to give to a man to make him fall for you in a long lasting way. All guys are different as are all women and so what we are looking for and what we can offer is different. You don’t need to change the way you walk or do your makeup like Kendall Jenner just so some guy will like you. In the long term that won’t benefit us as women either! You want him to want you because you’re exactly that – you! Being you is the most attractive thing you can do and owning your attraction will attract a gorgeous man.
If you want to know how to attract men, without changing yourself or forcing anything, then we have your back. Our relationship experts here at Match have prepared a list of helpful tips on how to attract men naturally. Read on and all will be revealed as you like:
Make eye contact
Our first tip on how to attract men is don’t be afraid to look him in the eye! If you want a man to notice you, you need to show him you’re interested. What better way than some classic eye-flirt across the room? There’s nothing better to get your adrenaline pumping than playing the eye game until one of you decides to make the first move. If you’re the shy type, try making eye contact at least once, for 2 seconds, and keep an eye out for his reaction. Maybe seeing his face spark with interest will help you come out of your shell. Careful not to stare too much though!
While smiling is generally an amazing way to boost your mood and that of those around you, it can also be a super flirty cue to attract men. When you look and feel happy, chances are that more people will notice and find you appealing. Try smiling for a few seconds while making eye contact with the man you’re after. You’ll make him feel intrigued to approach you, as well as more confident in himself and his chances with you. Trust us, a simple smile can go a long way and sometimes all a guy’s waiting for is the ‘green light’ from you.
If you’re positive, then you’re sure to attract a like minded guy. In life, all we want is to find love with someone kind and positive who will find us attractive. A smile is the first step.
Bring out your youthfulness
First of all, let us make clear that youthfulness has nothing to do with age. Instead, it relates to attitude – the way you carry yourself and how that shows your social, exciting and spontaneous side, however you choose to express that as an individual. Men will naturally be more attracted to you and want to meet you when you show off your most fun side. If you always convey your more serious side (and we all have that side!), you’ll come across as sheltered and not easily approachable. Of course, we’re not saying that you should be acting like a teenager! Just try to emulate all the best characteristics associated with youth, energy and positivity and you’ll find that attracting men is effortless and that he’s sure to be interested.
At the same time, seriousness is a great quality in a woman that many men are intimidated by. Seriousness in an uptight sense? Sure, that’s not cute. But seriousness in a sense of being bold, ambitious and business-minded that’s sure to attract a man and a modern man at that. Body language says a lot so even when speaking about serious matters, speak with relaxed body language that showcases your confidence. This is super sexy and more likely to give a man an insight into how you are long term. You want a man to feel good when he’s talking to you and when you’re talking to him and the only way to make him feel good is to show that you’re feeling good and setting the tone.
More on how to attract men?
There are many ways to attract men and they’re all dependent on the flirter and the flirtee. For example, some men are attracted to and interested in a higher pitched voice which some women can’t deliver. This shouldn’t matter. We all have ‘types’ but these can be broken down when attracting men. It’s all about that undefinable chemistry. A mistake women make when flirting to attract a man is trying to be what she thinks he needs. Firstly, this will never last for a long term relationship. Secondly, men pull away when they smell inauthenticity. So just be yourself and demonstrate interest!
Be present and don’t hide in a corner
Try to make yourself present in the room. We know sometimes certain situations can be intimidating, but you should try to keep yourself active and central, and not hiding behind furniture or plants. Expecting to be approached, but not putting yourself out there is unfair to the man you’re interested in. Just don’t force yourself to be the centre of attention. Make sure to remember that being natural is everything!
Charm him with body language
Positive body language is essential to attract men. It shows him you’re excited about being with him and creates a more flirtatious atmosphere for the conversation to kick in. Try decreasing the space between the two of you by leaning towards him, or breaking the touch barrier by touching his arm while talking or while laughing at one of his jokes. Playfully playing with your hair or your jewellery can also add to your charm and arouse feelings in the man you’re pursuing.
Overall, it’s no secret that finding Mr.right takes time but attracting him is the first step. There’s no dating coach or book you buy on Amazon that will draw him to you. It all depends on chemistry and conversation. Online dating is one way to start this conversation and attract an attractive man through conversation via an online dating site. Traditional in person attraction also works too!
Furthermore, don’t be intimated and ever think that there are enough ‘attractive women’ out there. Thanks to social media profiles it’s easy to be intimidated by ‘competition’ but really we are stronger when we don’t compare ourselves and instead own our own attractiveness. Attractive men will arise when we learn to love ourselves before making eye contact. There are many ways to attract a man but they are all rooted in confidence.
So there you have it: our top tips on how to attract men naturally, without changing who you are!
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