Are you in an online dating funk? Finding the optimism to get out there and date isn’t always easy and sometimes we just don’t feel like doing it. But all it takes is a few little tricks and a switch in your mindset to help you back on the path of positivity. Go get ’em, tiger!
DO THE OPPOSITE
If you’ve been waiting for people to contact you, get proactive. If you’ve been messaging 24/7, take a back seat instead. Breaking the pattern of your behaviour can give you unexpected new results you’d never have achieved following your well-worn path.
SET UP 3 DATES
With people who don’t look like The One, but who you enjoy talking to. Anyone who makes you laugh, smile, and doesn’t have immediate deal-beakers is good enough to share a coffee with. Remove ALL pressure to impress by keeping your expectations low-key.
SCOUTING FOR FUN
Find new, original date venues in your neighbourhood. Ignore the predictable dinner/drinks hang-outs, and instead explore libraries, museums, art galleries, auction houses… When dates become interviews, you lose interest. When you remind yourself dating is FUN, you rediscover your love of getting out there with someone new.
FOCUS ON THE JOURNEY, NOT THE DESTINATION
Looking back, you’ll see that you found your partner at JUST the right time. It might be tomorrow, it might be next year. You don’t know. So, Live The Moment. Focus on filling every date, every message, every profile photo with life, fun and energy. Then you won’t count the days till you meet Them, you’ll be too busy making each day count.
INTERVIEW HAPPY COUPLES
Don’t surround yourself with disillusioned singletons, spend more time with blissful couples. Find out how they met, how they dated, how they “knew” they’d met the right person. Remind yourself how love can arrive in unexpected places, at any time. It’s all possible! Keep the faith. It’s on its way…