Roughly 9 million Brits have been on a dating site, and that number is only going to grow. Thanks to the variety of services out there that allow for niche preferences, online dating has become one of the most popular ways to meet new people, especially for Christians.
However, standing out in a sea of thousands can seem like a daunting task. You shouldn’t worry. There are actually several easy things you can do to get yourself noticed by the Christian guy or gal you’re looking for.
- Post a Variety of Photos, Including Ones of You at Church
Your main and additional photos in your profile are the first things online daters look at, so you want to choose these carefully. Mixing it up will give people a better idea of who you are, and the values you hold dear. I suggest posting one headshot, one full-body shot, and then a few of you doing something you love that ties back into your passion for Christianity — such as attending a church function.
- Talk About Religion in Your Opening Lines
Most dating websites will give you a spot on your profile where you can write a short phrase or sentence about yourself before getting into the in-depth details. This will show up in members’ Match search results and let them know what you’re about right away. You can attract like-minded singles by using your favorite quote from the Bible or something simple like “devout Christian woman seeks devout Christian man.”
- Women Should Wear Red; Men Should Wear Blue or Black
Getting noticed on an online dating site, let alone one of the largest online dating sites like Match.com, doesn’t have to be hard. Sometimes all it comes down to is the colour of the shirt you’re wearing. Tonnes of research on the subject have found blue or black are the best colours for men — while the folks at Slate say it’s red that women should be wearing.
- Update Your Profile Every Week
Spending just a couple of minutes every week updating your profile will make a world of difference — a lot of dating services will move you up higher in their search results if you do. Make it easier for Christian men and women to spot you by switching out a few words, replacing one photo, adding a new hobby to your list, or answering a question you haven’t answered yet!
- Be Genuine, Specific & Upfront About Your Faith in Your Description
When filling out an ‘About Me’ section on your dating profile, it’s important to be as detailed, yet concise, as possible. Plenty of Christian singles can say “My faith is the top priority in my life,” but the reason why is unique for every person: “My faith is a top priority in my life because .” Including unique-to-you pieces of information like this are guaranteed to help you stand out — as well as ward off anyone you might not be interested in.
- Initiate Contact & Personalise Your Messages
If you want to catch someone’s eye, sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands — instead of waiting for a compatible Christian man or woman to reach out to you first. Be sure to customise each message with something about the person that you’ve read from their profile. And always end with a question: “I see that you volunteer to build homes for the less fortunate every summer. So do I! What kind of projects have you worked on? Laying foundations is actually my favourite.”
Even with millions, and maybe one day billions, of people using online dating sites, there are always ways to attract that special someone who also has similar beliefs and a similar lifestyle as you. Give the tips above a try and you’re sure to meet the Christian man or woman of your dreams!
Hayley Matthews is editor-in-chief at DatingAdvice.com, a popular site featuring advice from more than 250 dating coaches, matchmakers, and other relationship experts. In addition to expert tips and guides, the site also publishes reviews of the best online dating sites, where Hayley and her team rate Match.com as the #1 online dating site. When Hayley isn’t writing about dating and relationships, she’s listening to The Beatles or watching Harry Potter.