Writing your single parent dating profile is a tricky – but absolutely essential – task! The best dating site profiles highlight your personality and dating goals whilst also giving your potential dates an easy way to message you.
We know that dating with kids is unique, and your dating profile should reflect that. When you complete your Match profile, you’ll immediately have an opportunity to let all the singles out there know easily know who you are, and what you’re looking for.
But what exactly should you include in your profile to get those messages and dates from other eligible singles looking for love? How much detail should you go into? What pics should you absolutely include? We’re here to help! We’ve put together 8 of the most important single parent dating profile do’s and don’ts.
Online dating with Match is one of the best ways for single parents with kids to get back in the dating game. And with good reason – using Match, you can browse a huge selection of singles and match with people who share the right values and dating goals for you – and your kids.
Single Parent Dating Profile Do’s:
1. Do make it clear that you have kids:
Mention your kids in your personal ad and include a photo of you together. This will show potential matches that your kids are a priority in your life. If this puts them off, it’s better not to waste your time with them. If they’re happy to date a single parent, let the conversation begin! Remember your profile is about you, not your children, but because they’re such an important part of your life, you should be certain anyone you get chatting to understands that from day one.
2. Do list as many hobbies and interests as possible:
Make sure you’re coming across as an interesting person who potential matches could have fun and try new things with, and not just a mother or a father. You might not have as much time as non-parents to indulge in hobbies, but everyone has something that helps them relax once the kids have gone to bed. Don’t try to ham anything up too much though as white lies will become obvious quite quickly if you meet.
3. Do state what you’re looking for:
As a single parent, you have enough on your mind when it comes to your little cherubs and their education, social life, health and anything else you can think of. Ensuring that potential dates know exactly what you’re looking for means their future plans will align with yours and you should avoid any potentially awkward chats about what you both want further down the line
4. Do give matches an easy way to start a conversation:
Giving potential dates an obvious way to break the ice will make them more likely to message you, as they won’t be agonising over how to get the conversation going. This also keeps the focus on you and your match’s interests, which is what you should be talking about in the initial stages, rather than you being a parent.
Single Parents Dating Profile Don’ts:
1. Don’t dwell on the past in your profile:
Exes are dangerous territory, especially if you’ve had a serious relationship in the past. Mentioning exes in your profile will make it seem like you haven’t moved on and that you’re on the hunt for rebound dates. If you start dating someone more seriously, exes will inevitably come up, but wait for the right time to raise this subject rather than diving straight in.
2. Don’t make your profile revolve entirely around your kids:
While it’s important you tell potential matches that you’re a parent, there’s more to you than your kids. You’re an amazing, unique person in your own right; focus on this, as well as the importance of being a parent. Find a happy medium and you’ll attract dates who understand your responsibilities but also want to get to know you for your personality, sense of humour and values.
3. Don’t be too cringey:
This applies to both your personal ad and any messages you exchange with matches. Cheesy chat up lines can be funny in an eye-rolling way, but only in the right context; lots of people find them tired and off-putting. If you’re going to go down this road, at least use a more unusual line that your date might not have heard before. It’s better to be funny without resorting to clichés at all if you can manage it! When you’re hanging out with kids for most of the day, more mature conversation on a date is a must, so make sure it gets off to the right start.
4. Don’t write an essay:
No one has time to read your entire life story when they’re checking out your profile! Likewise, as a single parent with precious little free time, you’ll be wanting to see shorter profiles to gauge your interest in people as quickly as possible. Keep it succinct and focus on what you think potential matches will find attractive and will be looking for. Give them some interesting facts about you, tell them your most treasured memory, list your favourite songs. Whatever it is, keep it engaging and avoid oversharing.