Great dates are a fabulous confidence boost and can often lead to something more serious, but if you’re struggling to arrange dates in the first place, it can be a little frustrating.
While it’s perfectly normal to feel disheartened if you haven’t spotted someone you like or if you’ve had a few dates with people you didn’t click with, it’s important to remember that there really is no specific dating time limit you should be working towards.
If you’re feeling down about your lack of dating success, we’ve got some top tips to keep you in the right frame of mind at each step of your online dating adventure.
After 2 weeks…
If it’s been a couple of weeks since you first subscribed to match.com and you’ve not had any contact with potential dates, bear in mind that it really is early days!
Set aside a little bit of time so you can really explore the great people on match.com. There are so many different ways of searching for people in your area – whether it’s by occupation, interests, age, or even favourite films. With so many ways to get in touch with the singles on our site, we’re confident you’ll meet someone you’d like to date.
Once you’ve spotted a few people you might like to learn a bit more about, why not bite the bullet, be proactive and make the first move by sending them a wink or a quick email? Who knows, they might have seen and liked you too!
After a month…
After a month or so of online dating, you might be feeling a little disheartened if you haven’t yet organised any dates.
Take action now to improve your chances of connecting with someone you like by updating your profile.
Have you taken the time to fill in every section you can? Have you updated your dating headline and personal ad with what you’ve been doing recently and some fun info about yourself? Is it time to add some new photos or showcase your lust for life and variety of hobbies?
Taking time out to do this will really make you stand out from the crowd and will help attract those with similar interests. Think carefully about what you could do differently to give your dating profile a boost. For example, if your profile was originally very matter of fact, why not inject a bit of humour, to show your different sides?
After 3 months…
Whether you’ve had lots of dates or none at all, it might be that your profile just isn’t being seen by the types of people you want to date. Don’t despair! There are a couple of things you can do to help things along…
Ask a friend who’s good with words to check over your description. It may be that you’ve failed to mention some of your really good points, or that you’ve been too dry with your sense of humour or have been a bit too specific in highlighting the kinds of people you don’t want to date, rather than those you do!.
Remember to keep an open mind to ensure you have the very best possibility of meeting someone special.
After 6 months…
There is no specific time limit on finding a date, how many times have you heard someone say that love will find you when you least expect it?
Try expanding your search area a little. Maybe there’s someone in the next town who would be a great date for you? Maybe it’s also time to update your profile a little – a lot can happen in 6 months. Perhaps you’ve changed jobs, or have recently got a new pet you might like to mention? Also consider writing your profile ad in a different way. It can be fun to use your profile to issue a challenge to whoever’s reading it and might be interested. You could ask people to get in touch with their favourite joke for example, or to recommend their favourite place in the world for your next holiday? Be inventive and you’re sure to attract renewed attention.
Most of all, remember that there is definitely someone out there who’s right for you, and when you find them all the waiting will have been worthwhile!
If you need help asking someone you like for a first date, read our article on how to ask for a first date.