Signs He’s Losing Interest

Can you feel him drifting away? Is he losing interest?

If you’re still smitten with your man it can be heart-breaking to notice that he’s not “into it” anymore, but it’s important to deal with these issues before they develop into something more destructive. So, take a look at these signs your boyfriend is losing interest.

The Big Signs

If he is indeed losing interest, signs he is no longer interested in you can include:

Decreased communication

When a relationship is on the slide, communication is often the first thing to go. If your man is getting cold feet, you’ll find yourself doing the lion’s share of calling, texting, and emailing. Likewise, the time he takes to respond will get longer and longer. Eventually, the relationship will go into a meltdown and it’s all downhill from there.

Spending less quality time together

If he’s reluctant to get intimate with you, his feelings could be on the wane. We’re not just talking about sex, either. Avoidance of hugs, kisses, hand-holding, and public displays of affection are all signs that—for him at least—the spark has gone.

No more future planning

If he avoids talking about your future as a couple—be it nights out, holidays, or getting married—it may be that he’s starting to have doubts about the relationship.

He feels uncomfortable making plans with you because he doesn’t see you in his future.

It may even be that he’s already decided to end it and feels bad stringing you along.

Reduced compliments and more unflattering comments

No doubt there are some things your man does that make your heart melt but when is the last time you felt like that? If it’s been a while, the chances are his feelings are changing.

The end may also be nigh if he starts comparing you unflatteringly to others. Disparaging remarks are likely to point to deeper feelings he’s keeping to himself. These feelings could indicate that he’s decided he wants something else.

No jealousy

No one likes a possessive partner but if the man in your life stops caring about your colleague he’s convinced has carnal intentions, it could spell trouble. It may mean he no longer wants you himself, or even that he’d like someone to take you off his hands.

More arguments

Are you arguing more? This could be because he wants out but doesn’t know how to make the break. Instead, he picks fights as a way of venting his confusion and frustration. By the same token, it could be because he’s re-evaluated you and decided he doesn’t like what he sees.

Analysing Subtle Signs

In addition to the big things outlined above, there are some more subtle signs your boyfriend is losing interest:

Spending less time with your family and friends

Not wanting to spend time with your family or close friends is another sign someone is looking for the exit. If he’s plotting his escape, being friendly with your relatives is the last thing he’ll want to do. This kind of bonding will make him feel two-faced.

Lack of eye contact

If a guy doesn’t feel as strongly about you as he once did, he may struggle to maintain eye contact. He’s dismissive, but subconsciously he could also feel guilty.

Delay in replies

How long does it take him to reply to a question? How long did it take in the past? If the former is much longer than the latter, there could be something amiss.

He isn’t interested in spending time with you

If your boyfriend is full of reasons why he can’t see you, alarm bells should ring. His excuses may seem legitimate but if he’s into you, he’ll find a way round the problem.

Change in effort and appearance

Has the scruffy man you met suddenly acquired some new—and surprisingly trendy—clothes? A growing concern for his appearance could mean a change of mind (and heart) as he begins to look elsewhere.

Reasons Why He Might be Losing Interest

You know what to look for, but why do men lose interest in the first place? What leads those to those changing feelings and triggers the aforementioned signs? Well, every situation is different, but there are a few typical causes:

• Compatibility issues: You just don’t connect like you once did.
• Loss of attraction: For whatever reason, he’s not physically attracted to you anymore.
• External influences: Family issues, a new fling—the problem isn’t always related to you.
• His personal issues: Whether it’s a mid-life crisis or a change in mood, it could alter his affections.

Impact of Losing Interest

If he has lost interest in a relationship, it could have a significant impact on you. Assuming you’re still interested, it means your emotional and mental health will take a hit. If you have kids or a house together, things could get complicated.

It could even knock your confidence. It’s easy to think that relationships are black and white—if you’re still together, all is well. But that’s not the case, and if you suddenly discover that your partner lost interest a long time ago and you weren’t aware, you may question all future relationships.

So, it’s best to nip it in the bud and take proactive measures.

Proactive Measures

Being proactive doesn’t mean you should force him to love you or stay interested. You can’t do that. It does mean, however, that you should try to address the potential issues (drifting apart, spending less valuable time together) and even have a conversation with them.

If you sense your partner is losing interest, try the following:

• Reignite the passion
• Focus more on them
• Remember why they fell in love with you and remind them through subtle means
• If all else fails, chat with them directly

Conclusion

The question of “Why do guys lose interest?” is not an easy one to answer, and there can be a number of reasons. But the signs that follow a lack of interest are usually plain to see, provided you’re looking for them.

The issue, particularly in long-term relationships, is that these things can happen gradually, so you don’t always see them. It means that the first thing you know about it is when he drops the break-up bomb and leaves you to pick up the pieces.

So, pay attention to changes in the following areas:

• Physical intimacy
• Eye contact and body language
• Attitudes towards friends and family
• Spending time alone with you

If the red flags are there, it could be time to ask questions, figure things out, and see if the relationship can be salvaged. If not, there are many more great single men out there just waiting for someone like you, so don’t give up on love just yet!

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