Trying to figure out if he’s a keeper? Here’s the most common signs he’s ready to make the ultimate commitment.
You’ve met his folks
If he’s introduced you to his parents and is happy to show you off at family gatherings, you can be pretty sure he’s planning on hanging around. Sharing you with his nearest and dearest is a clear indication that he envisages having you in his life for more than just a short time.
He wants children
When he talks about the future he includes you in his plans and doesn’t flinch when the conversation turns to the topic of children. Tell tale comments such as “I wonder what our children would look like.” And “When I’m a dad…” are a dead giveaway that he’s given the matter thought and is keen to move forward together. Game on!
He’s house trained
A little bit of untidiness and occasional laziness is permissible, but unless you’re planning on living like a 1950’s housewife you don’t want to spend the rest of your life picking up his dirty socks and doing his dishes no matter how much you love him. If your man has a vacuum cleaner and knows how to use it, does the washing-up and knows which day the recycling is collected, you’re on to a winner. If not, he isn’t a lost cause, you might just need to engage in some gentle training.
He treats women with respect
The way your man behaves around other women – especially his mother or sister – is a good way of gauging his true character. Next time he’s with his mother, sister or other female friends, watch how he treats them. Does he talk over them, dismiss their ideas and bulldoze them into his way of thinking or is he gentlemanly, chivalrous and respectful at all times? Marriage to someone who doesn’t hold your gender in high regard will be tricky to say the least.
In a crisis situation your man always finds a way to be there for you no matter how busy he is with work or other commitments. In other words, you’re top of his priority list.
Marriage is about being able to support one another in times of uncertainty or emotional unrest. A man who listens to your woes, does the best to understand the situation and offers advice and support when you’re feeling low or going through a rough patch is definitely someone you want to have around.
Your friends and family approve
When it comes to your welfare, close friends and family are harder to please than Strictly Come Dancing judge, Craig Revel Horwood. Their opinion of your man matters a great deal. It’s those closest to you who have your best interests at heart (most of the time at least). If they seem troubled by your latest match, then there could be some cause for concern. If however, they seem to think he’s Mr Wonderful, you should take it as a good sign. They wouldn’t give you their seal of approval unless they were completely convinced he’s a good egg.
He treats you well
It might sound obvious, but even more important than the way he treats others, is how he treats you. We’re not saying he should put you on a pedestal and shower you with romantic gifts and presents every day – nice as that may sound. We’re talking about how he behaves towards you in public and in private. A bit of bickering and the odd argument are perfectly healthy, but if you start feeling bullied or constantly undermined, it’s time to have a serious think about whether he really is the right one for you.
You need to be able to trust the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with, not just to be loyal and faithful, but also to be honest and frank about other areas of his life including money and work. If he’s lied or concealed things from you in the past, or made promises he doesn’t keep, what’s to stop him doing so again? Marriage is the ultimate promise, so only proceed down the matrimonial path if you’re one hundred percent confident you can trust him. But be cautious, we all have a past and have done things we’re not proud of so don’t judge him based on past form and previous relationships.
He has a sense of responsibility
This is one of the primary qualities necessary in a husband. A man who doesn’t let you or others down when he knows he’s being relied upon, is a precious commodity. A man who doesn’t come through for you on important matters, and who squanders his cash on nights out on the town instead of saving for a deposit on a flat has a bit of growing up to do before he can be deemed reliable enough for marriage.
He’s pretty sorted
Earning megabucks shouldn’t be a pre-requisite, but if you’re planning on getting hitched, a man who’s a grafter not a slacker is an absolute must. A bloke who can show he’s got his act together in terms of where he lives, what he does for a living, how much money he’s got and has plans (that involve you) in place for the future is obviously a far better prospect than one who still lives with his mum, plays on his X-box all day and doesn’t have any savings.